"April Showers bring realization" (HAWMC #8)
Me: I get it. April stinks. Can I skip this whole month
Him: No, why?
Me: Looking back over old Migraine diaries, this is the worst month for my head, and come May, I should feel better, I hope... I get it- this month isn't a fair test of meds.
Him: Hmmmm. Sure looks like you're having a hard time lately.
Me: It's the bloody weather.
Him: I hate seeing you like this.
Me: I know.
Him: It's like you're not any better... and it's frustrating.
Me: I know.
Him: I love you. It hurts me to see you passed out on the couch.
Me: (tearing up) I know.
Him: My ankle's been hurting something fierce lately (note: He broke it in several places and has pins and a plate in it.)
Me: could it be from the weather- I know my wrist's been acting up (I had surgery on it to repair ligaments and scrape tissue)
Me: Just tossing it out there...
Him: Yeah... Never thought about that.
Him: No, makes perfect sense... I just never thought about my leg that way... never had an injury or anything that could act up.
Me: (about to say something,and then decided to save it.) mmm.
Him: It stinks.
Me: Yeah. I'm sorry you're having pain.
Him: Meh- it's okay.
Me: (laughing) No, it's not. (Change in tone to completely serious) Just because you're not grabbing for heavy meds doesn't make your pain any less real- or less chronic.
Me: It's okay to say you're in pain in front of me, you know...
Him: I know. (it's clear in his tone that he didn't think that it was appropriate.)
Me: I love you. (Tearing up again) And don't ever think that just because I may be in pain, yours isn't valid too.
Me: I'm serious.
Him: I know.
Exeuent players, both taking pain meds that day.